When is a stick not a stick? When's it's a stick bug! Is this deception, or brilliant survival tactic? If you take a moment to think about it, a stick bug can be an effective life coach! People can be like a stick bug, appearing to be one thing when, in fact, they're another. Generally, as a society we hate it when someone is "fake," and, ... Continue Reading »
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Tough Love Or Tough Noogies?
Have you taken a "tough love" approach towards someone telling yourself it was for their own good 2pharmaceuticals.com , when, truthfully, it was more for your own sake? The concept of "tough love" was made popular in 1968 by Bill Milliken in his book, Tough Love, in which you take a brutally harsh stand with someone you love for their own good. ... Continue Reading »
Sort Out Empowerment Trash From Truth
Has the rallying cry, "Rules are made to be broken!" gone too far? What happens when the yearning to be different and stand out from the crowd ends up degrading into a compulsive need to break any rules, even the decent ones? How petty can the need to feel empowered get? Jogging along a beautiful refreshing country road the other morning, reveling ... Continue Reading »
“But” Nothing! The Worst Word Isn’t “Can’t,” It’s “But”
"But"nothing! Forget about eliminating the word "can't" from your vocabulary. It's "but" that'll really throw you off course! It's popular now to attack "can't" as a psychological obstacle to achievement.There's nothing you "can't" do. Never say "can't." The word "can't" just isn't in your vocabulary. If you believe you "can't ... Continue Reading »
When the Well Is Dry, We Know the Worth of Water
Quick! What are you taking for granted right this second? Seriously. Imagine some uber-powerful alien has just appeared before you and announced that you are about to lose everything--and I mean everything--except for whatever you can name in the next 30 seconds. Don't bother asking for details. There's no time for clarification--quick! What would ... Continue Reading »
Don’t Run From An Apology, Dress For It! (Mentally)
Few things makes you feel so exposed, so naked, as having to apologize. You're human, so at one point or another, you'll find yourself in a position where an apology is in order. Face it. You screwed up, and someone else is paying a price for it. It could be minor -- you're texting as you accidentally bump into someone and spill their coffee on ... Continue Reading »