When no one understands you, you feel disconnected and alone, even in a crowded room, surrounded by family and friends, or lying in bed with your lover. Feeling as if no one will ever understand you, that you will always be disconnected from others, both now and into the future, is emotional loneliness. It’s heartbreaking, to feel you have so much to offer and everyone would value you so much more if only they understood you. So, when you don’t understand yourself, you’re disconnected from yourself, from the most intimate, most important human relationship you could ever have.
Being isolated from yourself is spiritual loneliness, and it can hurt deep into your soul. You find yourself forever asking why the things you do and the choices you make aren’t making you happy or satisfied. You feel empty inside, even if your outward life appears okay. You feel you’re failing yourself, but just don’t know why or how to fix it. Of all the relationships you will have between the time you are born and the time you die, the one that ensures through it all is the one with yourself. As you grow from newborn through adulthood, though, you start out “naked” and over time end up clothed in the countless outside influences distracting and re-directing you away from the relationship you have with yourself.
When you don’t understand yourself, it is the one time you do need to think naked–or more to the point, get naked! If you were to strip off all the outward influences, the teachings, advice, values and beliefs that have been piled upon you that cloak the original you underneath, what would you find there? And how would you choose to dress yourself, on your own terms?